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Wizard
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September 9th, 2018 at 4:48:34 AM permalink
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I suppose you could have asked him something specific like, "What is it going to take to get the Wizard of Vegas forum software working correctly again and when will that happen?"



I think god would have said to tough-up.
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September 9th, 2018 at 5:24:34 AM permalink
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Then I asked him a question, that is too personal to repeat here. His advice was, and again I'm paraphrasing, to follow my heart and to heck with the consequences on others.

(Quote truncated to part I wanted to respond to.)

Wizard,

Here are two things that help me when I have a dilemma of this sort. Maybe one or both will help you or maybe not, but I thought it was worth sharing.

1) Regret analysis: I think there are two types of regrets. Regret of what you have done. And regret of what you did not do but wish you did. And those two types of regrets can feel very different. Sometimes I’ll imagine myself on my deathbed. And I’ll play out my life and the imagined outcomes of the decision I’m wrestling with. Run my life out both ways, first imagining I did “the thing” and second imagining that I didn’t do “the thing.” And while on my imaginary death bed I’ll try and decide if I would rather die with the regret of what I did or the regret of what I didn’t do.

2) Committed coin flip decision: Assign one decision to heads and the other to tails. Repeat to yourself that you will follow whatever the coin tells you to do. Make yourself believe it viscerally. Then flip the coin. While the coin is in the air, you will likely find yourself rooting for heads or tails. The crunch of the decision coming to a head outside of your control will often clarify all the issues your brain is wrestling with, and suddenly you will find that you really do want to “do the thing” or “not do the thing” based on whether you are rooting for heads or tails. Now catch the coin in your hand. Keep your hand closed. Let your brain come to rest on the decision you made while the coin was in the air. If it still feels right, put the coin back in your pocket without looking at how it landed. It has done its job.

Anyway, good luck. The above work well for me but YMMV.
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September 9th, 2018 at 6:03:44 AM permalink
Quote: unJon

(Quote truncated to part I wanted to respond to.)

Wizard,

Here are two things that help me when I have a dilemma of this sort. Maybe one or both will help you or maybe not, but I thought it was worth sharing.

1) Regret analysis: I think there are two types of regrets. Regret of what you have done. And regret of what you did not do but wish you did. And those two types of regrets can feel very different. Sometimes I’ll imagine myself on my deathbed. And I’ll play out my life and the imagined outcomes of the decision I’m wrestling with. Run my life out both ways, first imagining I did “the thing” and second imagining that I didn’t do “the thing.” And while on my imaginary death bed I’ll try and decide if I would rather die with the regret of what I did or the regret of what I didn’t do.

2) Committed coin flip decision: Assign one decision to heads and the other to tails. Repeat to yourself that you will follow whatever the coin tells you to do. Make yourself believe it viscerally. Then flip the coin. While the coin is in the air, you will likely find yourself rooting for heads or tails. The crunch of the decision coming to a head outside of your control will often clarify all the issues your brain is wrestling with, and suddenly you will find that you really do want to “do the thing” or “not do the thing” based on whether you are rooting for heads or tails. Now catch the coin in your hand. Keep your hand closed. Let your brain come to rest on the decision you made while the coin was in the air. If it still feels right, put the coin back in your pocket without looking at how it landed. It has done its job.

Anyway, good luck. The above work well for me but YMMV.



This is great advice, unJon. Nice shot at focus with both, trying to dig clarity out of the muck of one's subconscious.

FWIW, Wiz.

I think the meaning of life is to make the most of whatever your potential is to be your best possible self, then use that strength outside your own circle to contribute something to the larger world. Neither of those are tasks that are ever finished, until you are.

One sign that you have succeeded, which you will never experience, is your legacy among those you leave behind. But part of your focus, while alive, is to see both a path to accomplishing a legacy, and the consequences beyond your short-term goals of your actions.

It's a start, anyway.
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September 9th, 2018 at 8:18:27 AM permalink
Good BM 2018 highlights video:

BM highlights 2018 (short)
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September 9th, 2018 at 8:41:12 AM permalink
The BM initials keep confusing me. Everytime I see it I think of a nice stinky poo.
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September 9th, 2018 at 8:55:10 AM permalink
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After those instant-gratification questions, a young woman of about 25 asked me, "What is the quickest way to enlightenment?"

WOW, you really @#$ed that one up! The correct answer was... Let me show you in my tent.


I didn't think the story was boring at all, it was getting really good, I couldn't wait to hear the end, unfortunately, I too I walked away feeling confused and unfulfilled.
♪♪Now you swear and kick and beg us That you're not a gamblin' man Then you find you're back in Vegas With a handle in your hand♪♪ Your black cards can make you money So you hide them when you're able In the land of casinos and money You must put them on the table♪♪ You go back Jack do it again roulette wheels turinin' 'round and 'round♪♪ You go back Jack do it again♪♪
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September 9th, 2018 at 9:20:43 AM permalink
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The event is held on BLM land. I assume they lease the use of it to the BM organizers. It seems to me there are two layers of security when you go in, one for the BLM and one for the event organizers.

The whole thing is very well organized, I must say, and they seem to respect local, state, and federal laws.



Two layers of security, but 90% of attendees under the influence? What firm got the contract from the BLM, “Dewey, Cheetam and Howe”?
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September 9th, 2018 at 12:20:21 PM permalink
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Two layers of security, but 90% of attendees under the influence? What firm got the contract from the BLM, “Dewey, Cheetam and Howe”?



That's my law firm! The attendees aren't under the influence on the way there. They get started after they arrive.
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September 9th, 2018 at 6:00:23 PM permalink
Actually, that was one of my favorite posts that I have read recently.

The post had a storyline, narrative tension and did not contain a video of your hands. What more could be hoped for?

Strangely, your post left me with the same feeling of vagueness and shifting pointlessness that you are attempting to describe in your story. The effect you create would be hard to achieve if you had actually set out to do so. If this was a writing assignment for a college English classic, you would get an A or A+. Really.
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September 10th, 2018 at 11:26:01 AM permalink
unJon sexz:
“2) Committed coin flip decision: Assign one decision to heads and the other to tails.”

e.gg: heads = happiness, tails=badness (tailspin etc.)
Gog learnt from Wiz dat u should expect 200 consecutive tails (ie misfortunate events one after another) if u don’t attend BM with a fantasy 25 yaer naked gal…lol

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