Thread Rating:

rxwine
rxwine
Joined: Feb 28, 2010
  • Threads: 172
  • Posts: 10349
September 24th, 2021 at 2:39:25 PM permalink
Quote:

Nicolas Cage 'mistaken for homeless man,' kicked out of Vegas restaurant



He was drunk and barefoot.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/movies/celebrity/nicolas-cage-mistaken-for-homeless-man-kicked-out-of-vegas-restaurant/ar-AAOMBcw?ocid=msedgntp
Everything is in high definition today except Bigfoot and UFOs
Wizard
Administrator
Wizard
Joined: Oct 14, 2009
  • Threads: 1392
  • Posts: 23469
September 29th, 2021 at 5:28:12 PM permalink
I have an etiquette question.

My second cousin, once removed, recently got married. I see this young man once or twice a year, usually when I go down to the LA area to visit my mother. I'm much closer to his mother. As far as I remember, I have never met his wife.

So, he just got married at a small ceremony in Oregon. I was not invited. No big deal, we're not that close and they wanted to keep the ceremony small.

My question is should I have felt obligated to get a wedding gift? I think not and didn't send one. However, somebody else felt it was rude of me to not acknowledge it.

What would you have done in my shoes?
It's not whether you win or lose; it's whether or not you had a good bet.
unJon
unJon
Joined: Jul 1, 2018
  • Threads: 14
  • Posts: 2936
September 29th, 2021 at 5:37:24 PM permalink
No gist necessary. Congratulate him next time you speak.
The race is not always to the swift, nor the battle to the strong; but that is the way to bet.
AxelWolf
AxelWolf
Joined: Oct 10, 2012
  • Threads: 151
  • Posts: 20017
September 29th, 2021 at 5:41:38 PM permalink
Quote: Wizard

I have an etiquette question.

My second cousin, once removed, recently got married. I see this young man once or twice a year, usually when I go down to the LA area to visit my mother. I'm much closer to his mother. As far as I remember, I have never met his wife.

So, he just got married at a small ceremony in Oregon. I was not invited. No big deal, we're not that close and they wanted to keep the ceremony small.

My question is should I have felt obligated to get a wedding gift? I think not and didn't send one. However, somebody else felt it was rude of me to not acknowledge it.

What would you have done in my shoes?

  • link to original post

    Im certain you have a few spare decks of playing cards or Dog's Playing Poker prints laying around. 🤣

    NO, you shouldn't feel obligated. I'm sure dear Abby would agree with me.
    ♪♪Now you swear and kick and beg us That you're not a gamblin' man Then you find you're back in Vegas With a handle in your hand♪♪ Your black cards can make you money So you hide them when you're able In the land of casinos and money You must put them on the table♪♪ You go back Jack do it again roulette wheels turinin' 'round and 'round♪♪ You go back Jack do it again♪♪
    SOOPOO
    SOOPOO
    Joined: Aug 8, 2010
    • Threads: 112
    • Posts: 8185
    September 29th, 2021 at 6:35:51 PM permalink
    Old couple (88 and 86?) lives across the street. They sit in their open garage sunning themselves for hours every day. A month or so ago I brought my small dog (Maltese-Yorkie combo) over. After barking his brains out at them at first he eventually let them pet him. He now sits on the old ladyís lap for as long as Iíll let him. I can tell it is the highlight of their day. The dog will sit near the guy after I let him down from the lady. The old guy is thinking of a way to somehow be able to sit in the open garage but keep it warm during the fall/winter.

    I now look forward to sitting and chatting with them, and most enjoy how much the lady loves petting and holding my dog.
    AlanMendelson
    AlanMendelson 
    Joined: Oct 5, 2011
    • Threads: 119
    • Posts: 4031
    September 30th, 2021 at 1:56:00 AM permalink
    Quote: Wizard

    I have an etiquette question.

    My second cousin, once removed, recently got married. I see this young man once or twice a year, usually when I go down to the LA area to visit my mother. I'm much closer to his mother. As far as I remember, I have never met his wife.

    So, he just got married at a small ceremony in Oregon. I was not invited. No big deal, we're not that close and they wanted to keep the ceremony small.

    My question is should I have felt obligated to get a wedding gift? I think not and didn't send one. However, somebody else felt it was rude of me to not acknowledge it.

    What would you have done in my shoes?

  • link to original post



    You could send a Hallmark card. But you have no obligation.

    I'm the master of small weddings. I never expected anything from anybody.
    Mission146
    Mission146
    Joined: May 15, 2012
    • Threads: 132
    • Posts: 14797
    September 30th, 2021 at 3:41:25 AM permalink
    Quote: Wizard

    I have an etiquette question.

    My second cousin, once removed, recently got married. I see this young man once or twice a year, usually when I go down to the LA area to visit my mother. I'm much closer to his mother. As far as I remember, I have never met his wife.

    So, he just got married at a small ceremony in Oregon. I was not invited. No big deal, we're not that close and they wanted to keep the ceremony small.

    My question is should I have felt obligated to get a wedding gift? I think not and didn't send one. However, somebody else felt it was rude of me to not acknowledge it.

    What would you have done in my shoes?

  • link to original post



    Formal Invitation = Gift (Even if you donít go)

    No Formal Invitation = No Gift

    If youíre not close enough that the first is compelled, then not enough for the second, either. It would perhaps be an exception if you had a friend who lived out of the country and asked if youíd have any chance of making it if he or she sent an invite.
    https://wizardofvegas.com/forum/off-topic/gripes/11182-pet-peeves/120/#post815219
    EvenBob
    EvenBob
    Joined: Jul 18, 2010
    • Threads: 434
    • Posts: 25333
    Thanks for this post from:
    rainman
    September 30th, 2021 at 11:16:58 AM permalink
    Quote: Wizard

    I have an etiquette question.

  • link to original post



    My wife says you were not invited to the wedding so no gift will be expected.
    "It's not enough to succeed, your friends must fail." Gore Vidal
    gordonm888
    Administrator
    gordonm888
    Joined: Feb 18, 2015
    • Threads: 50
    • Posts: 3284
    September 30th, 2021 at 11:22:12 AM permalink
    I think you are not expected to send him a gift.

    We have been in this situation several times, especially during the small weddings of Covid. But here's a singular case: a nephew (my wife's sister's son) who we had been close to and always present in his life in the best way, decided to marry suddenly in a small ceremony at city hall. Only his immediate family was invited. My wife was so hurt at not being invited that she went to the ceremony anyway. I chose to stay home on the principle that "I was not invited."

    So, about a decade passes in which we have almost no further contact or involvement with this nephew. Then, our nephew's wife announces she wants a divorce and moves in with a suddenly-revealed boyfriend (giving our nephew partial custody of the two young children from the marriage.) And now, we once again have a close relationship to our nephew (who has not remarried) and his children.

    Many possible takeaways form this story. Here's one: When in love and getting married, the opinions of an imminent/new spouse are more important than almost anything else. And it's very hard for family to row upstream against that current.
    So many better men, a few of them friends, are dead. And a thousand thousand slimy things live on, and so do I.
    rxwine
    rxwine
    Joined: Feb 28, 2010
    • Threads: 172
    • Posts: 10349
    September 30th, 2021 at 11:55:23 AM permalink
    Quote: AxelWolf

    Im certain you have a few spare decks of playing cards or Dog's Playing Poker prints laying around. 🤣



    If Wizard gave either of those as gifts before, I can see why he is not getting invited places.
    Everything is in high definition today except Bigfoot and UFOs

    • Jump to: