I've been with my wife-elect for 3 years now (we're getting married in just a few short weeks). We rarely have knock-down drag-out arguments/fights. Actually I'd say only one in our whole relationship, which was 100% my fault for f***ing something up.
But other than that, we tend to have pretty mature, open dialogues. I do bite my tongue from time to time; usually if it is something small or something I don't really care about. But for serious issues I make my opinion known and then we discuss it. If it's something that requires a decision, we often time compromise, otherwise one of us will give in. If it's just a random debate about something, a lot of times neither of us will change our mind. Since she went back to school and I started paying for everything (both halves of the rent, all the food, etc.), I pretty much control the finances, which she is fine with. We're both pretty frugal by nature, so there aren't a lot of disagreements on that front. But if she wants to buy something frivolous, I maintain nearly-absolute veto power and exercise it frequently :).
Anyway, I'm pretty happy with our communication skills. Which one would hope, since we'll hopefully be together forever!
Didn't some ruler of long ago solve that problem by announcing a great feast for all homeless, drunkards and layabouts. And then as they enjoyed the feast, he had the doors locked and the building torched.Quote: RS
is figure out a way to solve the homeless problem.
After some reflection (and this similar topic coming up somewhere else), I think the communication habits noted above may have something to do with me being an engineer, and her being a scientist.
We didn't get here making ethical decisions and I doubt they will be made anytime soon considering the capture of Washington by Wall St. It's the boomers who will suffer the most in old age for this but I think they deserve it the most having the most negligence anyways.
My boss decided today that he would buy us lunch. There are only 8 people in the company. We pulled out a menu to a local restaurant and people started writing down what they want. I write down a normal type lunch sandwich. I notice that other people wrote down $17 shrimp scampi and appetizers. It annoys me to see people do that when normally they would order 1 sandwich and split it.
Oh yeah at casinos I will use every last penny. In this case though it was an out of the blue, "hey everyone I am buying lunch today." We work in a small office and everyone ordered way above normal. I think it is just common courtesy to order normal and not take advantage of it. If I were him I would never offer to buy again.