Was I in the wrong here?

So, I had $300 in Comps and I invited some Friends to use my Comps up at a Restaurant. We all had a good time until the bill came to about $386 with tax and tip. My Friends purposely didn't bring any money and just assumed I would pay the tax and tip for everyone. I was upset and told them I thought everyone should split the tax and tip since Comps do not cover tax and tip.

They argued they felt I should pay all of the tax and tip since I invited them and these were my Comps. I argued common courtesy would be to pay a fair share of the tax and tip. My Friends were disgusted and thought I was being unreasonable and refused to chip in for tax and tip. I paid the roughly $86 in tax and tip as it was clear none of my Friends would pay the tax and tip. And the Waiter was getting anxious. Instead of thanking me for using my Comps with them, and paying the tax and tip myself, they are all upset with me for even asking them to chip in for tax and tip. Was I in the wrong here?

Did you tell your "friends" how much in total comps you had and anything over that should be split equally? Sounds live people went crazy ordering filet mignon and lobster. Lesson learned....next time tell your "friends" in advance. That being said,I am a firm believer in karma.

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So, I had $300 in Comps and I invited some Friends to use my Comps up at a Restaurant. We all had a good time until the bill came to about $386 with tax and tip. My Friends purposely didn't bring any money and just assumed I would pay the tax and tip for everyone. I was upset and told them I thought everyone should split the tax and tip since Comps do not cover tax and tip.

They argued they felt I should pay all of the tax and tip since I invited them and these were my Comps. I argued common courtesy would be to pay a fair share of the tax and tip. My Friends were disgusted and thought I was being unreasonable and refused to chip in for tax and tip. I paid the roughly $86 in tax and tip as it was clear none of my Friends would pay the tax and tip. And the Waiter was getting anxious. Instead of thanking me for using my Comps with them, and paying the tax and tip myself, they are all upset with me for even asking them to chip in for tax and tip. Was I in the wrong here?
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why are you stuck on something so miniscule? why are you hanging around such cheap and petty people? this is a problem that should have never left the table imo and it kind of gives me a headache even thinking that someone put time and effort into something so petty tbh

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So, I had $300 in Comps and I invited some Friends to use my Comps up at a Restaurant. We all had a good time until the bill came to about $386 with tax and tip. My Friends purposely didn't bring any money and just assumed I would pay the tax and tip for everyone. I was upset and told them I thought everyone should split the tax and tip since Comps do not cover tax and tip.

They argued they felt I should pay all of the tax and tip since I invited them and these were my Comps. I argued common courtesy would be to pay a fair share of the tax and tip. My Friends were disgusted and thought I was being unreasonable and refused to chip in for tax and tip. I paid the roughly $86 in tax and tip as it was clear none of my Friends would pay the tax and tip. And the Waiter was getting anxious. Instead of thanking me for using my Comps with them, and paying the tax and tip myself, they are all upset with me for even asking them to chip in for tax and tip. Was I in the wrong here?
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I also would expect my friends to chip in for tax and tip however, being in similar situations, I always spell it out in advance. "Let's go to dinner on me thanks to my free comps but you guys cover tax and tip and anything over my comp allowance."

It's terrible you have to do this but people always take advantage. I once told my friends to go order while I went to gamble. When I came back everyone was finishing their $75 filet mignon orders and expected me to pay the $400+ bill.

Did I need to inform everyone to only order what was reasonable, under a certain price point and not to take advantage? Unfortunately you learn the hard way that you do.

I don't understand why your friends are still upset if you wound up covering anyway. They should be thankful but again people are very self centered.

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So, I had $300 in Comps and I invited some Friends to use my Comps up at a Restaurant. We all had a good time until the bill came to about $386 with tax and tip. My Friends purposely didn't bring any money and just assumed I would pay the tax and tip for everyone. I was upset and told them I thought everyone should split the tax and tip since Comps do not cover tax and tip.

They argued they felt I should pay all of the tax and tip since I invited them and these were my Comps. I argued common courtesy would be to pay a fair share of the tax and tip. My Friends were disgusted and thought I was being unreasonable and refused to chip in for tax and tip. I paid the roughly $86 in tax and tip as it was clear none of my Friends would pay the tax and tip. And the Waiter was getting anxious. Instead of thanking me for using my Comps with them, and paying the tax and tip myself, they are all upset with me for even asking them to chip in for tax and tip. Was I in the wrong here?
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why are you stuck on something so miniscule? why are you hanging around such cheap and petty people? this is a problem that should have never left the table imo and it kind of gives me a headache even thinking that someone put time and effort into something so petty tbh
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Let's welcome the new member. Everyone has their own priorities.

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So, I had $300 in Comps and I invited some Friends to use my Comps up at a Restaurant. We all had a good time until the bill came to about $386 with tax and tip. My Friends purposely didn't bring any money and just assumed I would pay the tax and tip for everyone. I was upset and told them I thought everyone should split the tax and tip since Comps do not cover tax and tip.

They argued they felt I should pay all of the tax and tip since I invited them and these were my Comps. I argued common courtesy would be to pay a fair share of the tax and tip. My Friends were disgusted and thought I was being unreasonable and refused to chip in for tax and tip. I paid the roughly $86 in tax and tip as it was clear none of my Friends would pay the tax and tip. And the Waiter was getting anxious. Instead of thanking me for using my Comps with them, and paying the tax and tip myself, they are all upset with me for even asking them to chip in for tax and tip. Was I in the wrong here?
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why are you stuck on something so miniscule? why are you hanging around such cheap and petty people? this is a problem that should have never left the table imo and it kind of gives me a headache even thinking that someone put time and effort into something so petty tbh
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My Mother treated me to Breakfast years ago and I offered to pay the tax and tip, and she declined. I feel that whoever's treating should at least get helped out in the tax and tip, or at least an offer.

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So, I had $300 in Comps and I invited some Friends to use my Comps up at a Restaurant. We all had a good time until the bill came to about $386 with tax and tip. My Friends purposely didn't bring any money and just assumed I would pay the tax and tip for everyone. I was upset and told them I thought everyone should split the tax and tip since Comps do not cover tax and tip.

They argued they felt I should pay all of the tax and tip since I invited them and these were my Comps. I argued common courtesy would be to pay a fair share of the tax and tip. My Friends were disgusted and thought I was being unreasonable and refused to chip in for tax and tip. I paid the roughly $86 in tax and tip as it was clear none of my Friends would pay the tax and tip. And the Waiter was getting anxious. Instead of thanking me for using my Comps with them, and paying the tax and tip myself, they are all upset with me for even asking them to chip in for tax and tip. Was I in the wrong here?
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why are you stuck on something so miniscule? why are you hanging around such cheap and petty people? this is a problem that should have never left the table imo and it kind of gives me a headache even thinking that someone put time and effort into something so petty tbh
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Let's welcome the new member. Everyone has their own priorities.
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my anger here stems from this guys "friends" and how ungrateful they were and how they lied to him about not having money he seems like an ok guy but when you let people walk all over you its difficult to not express the anger they lack for themselves

LOL

This sounds like one of those pesky Reddit type questions, you know, the "AITA" type of thing.

FWIW, you invited them, so absent prior clarification you should pay tax and tip.

Yes, YTA.

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LOL

This sounds like one of this Reddit type questions, you know, the "AITA" type of thing.

FWIW, you invited them, so absent prior clarification you should pay tax and tip.

YTA.
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Okay, I'll accept responsibility for the tax and tip thing since I not only invited them, I didn't say anything about tax and tip.

So... I find it really hard to believe that they didn't have any money or CC on them. Or their CC programmed into their phone. Who does that anymore?

Having said that, when I've done something similar with comps, I say I have $xxx in comps, let's split the amount over, including tax and tip, evenly. I've never had anyone say no.