Very Sad News

It is with a very heavy heart and tears that I must share the sad news of the passing of my/our good friend, partner, and fellow AP.

We called him BK, that was short for Big Kahuna(he really seemed to like that nickname). His name on the forum was perdition.

We were concerned when he failed to respond to some texts and calls regarding some plans we had set for Monday(Everything was fine on Saturday). It was not all that uncommon for him to take some time off and go dark for a few days, but we usually got a heads up from him. He was the kind of guy who was always early or on time and responsible.

One of our other friends and teammate(another good friend of BK's) went to check at BK's residence Tuesday morning. He called me when things didn't seem right. BK's car was parked outside, yet he didn't answer the door or any calls. There was a chance BK was just not feeling well and just needed some extra rest, or he just didn't want to be bothered. I was very concerned at this point, so I headed over to see if I could yell his name and knock louder to get his attention. Knowing him, he would never want anyone entering his place unless it was absolutely necessary. We wanted to make absolutely sure it was an emergency before asking someone to open his door to check. At this time we were convinced we needed to contact management to do a wellness check.

Maintenance went in to check, he took a few steps and quickly came out while shaking his head indicating the worst(for a split second I was not sure if he was just indicating that no one was in there). That was not enough for me, so I went in to check myself, I was thinking there was a chance he was just unconscious, unfortunately, that was not the case. It just didn't seem real at the time, and to be quite honest, it still doesn't.

BK was a big guy and it seems as if he had a cardiac arrest while sleeping. That's not official, but the coroner was also suggesting that was the case as well. He did not drink, smoke or do drugs. It breaks my heart, even more, knowing he was only 40.

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BK hasn't participated here much in the last few years since he was involved with other stuff and moved on. He lurked occasionally without logging in. He was not big on crowds or meeting too many new people, however, he did attend one WOV event with me.

It took a while for him to warm up to and trust new people, but once he did, he was an open book. He was very caring and protective of his friends.

He was a very smart, humble, honest, trustworthy person. He was a very loyal friend and partner. If you needed him for something personal he would be there with no questions asked and he kept things to himself. You wouldn't know it after first meeting him, but he had a good sense of humor.

No one ever had one bad thing to say about him. Everyone he knew enjoyed seeing and hanging around with him. He never bragged and he was never fake.

I always hear people saying how special someone is after they pass away. I have always said BK was special from the first time I meet him, as had many others who knew him.

He was one of the biggest animal lovers you would ever meet. He would come over sometimes just to visit our pets. He was always ordering them treats online and bringing toys for them. He also donated money to different animal causes.

I have many more good things to say about BK and I know there are others here that do as well, but I think I need a break, so I will stop here for now.

So sorry for your, and everyone that knew him’s loss.

RIP. :(

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Sorry to hear this Axel. 40 years is way to young for anyone. May your friend rest in peace.

Very sorry to hear the news. I didn't know BK that well. We met during that play at the Plaza. He seemed very shy. A gentle giant one might call him.

Looks like heart failure while sleeping has taken another WoV member.

Thank you for sharing Axel. It is encouraging to know that he had such good friends.

Sorry for the loss of your friend.

Thanks for sharing Axel. Clearly he was a close friend of yours, and I'm sorry for your loss. =(

Its always difficult for me to know what to say in such circumstances.
It seems he was an extremely admirable individual and that you were fortunate to have met him however brief his life was.

There's no AP to beat the reaper.

Sounds like he was a good man.

R.I.P.

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Its always difficult for me to know what to say in such circumstances.

Me too. I usually just go with "sorry for your loss," if I didn't know the deceased. Not very creative but better than saying nothing or variations of "god works in mysterious ways," which I loathe hearing.

Not much I can add, but if he passed in his sleep, it should have been relatively peaceful. My condolences,may he rest in peace.

Nice tribute to your friend.

Sorry for your lost, Axel. I miss his funny/sarcastic posts.

I am very sorry for the lost of your friend the young guy (40)
RIP. :(

Axel,

That was a very nice epitaph, and I'm sorry for the loss of Perdition and your loss. I know you guys were tight.

For my part, not much I can say except he seemed like a nice guy. Unfortunately, I only had the privilege of meeting him for about ten minutes several years ago.

Axel I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like he was an amazing person, I wish I had had the chance to meet him. My condolences to you and anyone else mourning his loss.

Axel gave me permission to post this. It sort of outs me on the forum to do so, but I've been doing some work with him from time to time, which we've been keeping quiet. I wrote it for the team after Perdition/BK was found. So, in his honor.



Perdition.
(in Christian theology) a state of eternal punishment and damnation into which a sinful and unpenitent person passes after death.
synonyms: damnation, eternal punishment; hell, hellfire, doom

There's an old phrase: "you're on the road to perdition". It was a warning from a mother, a preacher, or any other person who positioned themselves as knowing better than you knew yourself where your life was leading.

So, if someone takes the avatar Perdition before you've even met, what kind of hell has their life already been?

I knew him for a year and a half. And I doubt I knew him at all. Exceedingly shy, but thoughtful and polite. Very quiet, but well-spoken when he did choose to talk. Avoided most people, but gentle and kind to animals, demonstrating a large capacity to love that went largely ignored except by his close circle of friends.

He came to Las Vegas from his past life, estranged from his family, little baggage beyond the scars he carried, broke and alone. He just decided one day to take charge of his own destiny, to start a new path, perhaps to leave Perdition behind.

He leapt; and he found a family of his own, people who saw his potential, his gentleness, and his humor; in short, who saw his value. To them (which became us), he was a Big Kahuna, a Hawaiian name for a man of size, wit, and power.

He became an AP, working when he could, traveling for the team, enjoying life in his spare time But health issues apparently caught up with him, long before he should have had to face death. I last saw him 2 weeks ago, and he was friendly and cheerful, looking well. This morning he was found by team members, after missing a date with someone yesterday. Inexplicable loss.

So brave, leaving and leaping for a new life. So loyal and true to those who cared about him.

I am so angry at those back home who threw him away. And so grateful he found you lot and had some happiness and purpose before he died.

RIP, BK. I really doubt you deserved Perdition. And thanks for allowing me to be your friend before the end.

BK may have been taken away early. For what reason we shall not know. Consider him not dead , but gone before. He is just further up the road we will all eventually travel. The comfort of having BK may be gone, but not that of having known him.
When our friends are alive we tend to see good qualities that they do not possess. When they die we tend to remember all the good qualities they had.
What made BK awesome was that when you met him he was the type to leave a big footprint in your heart.

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Axel gave me permission to post this...

That was outstanding. Thank you.

I didn't know him nearly as well as Axel but well enough to know he was an incredibly good guy, coming from circumstances that would turn most people bitter and mean.

This is just a little story, but he found some Nintendos for me to flip. He met my wife and I at the store. We each bought our one nintendo. He sold me his at cost and told us to keep the profits, over my objections, in spite of the fact that he was the one to find the deal. I had to argue with him to get him to agree to allow me to buy him a bottle of water as a thank you.

This was typical, as he was always eager to help set things up, help out others and be a positive influence, wanting nothing in return.

As Babs said, I'm glad he got to find a niche for his last few years, with the friends and success he deserved.

:( My condolences as well.

Like the others who have posted, I want to express my condolences for al those who knew Perdition. Sounds like a heck of a great guy.

Ahh damn it. Things like this make me live my life to the fullest everyday. Sorry for your loss axel (and others).

So sad to learn of this. Sorry for your loss, Axel.

Life is a gift: enjoy it!

Not too sure what to say, I never met "Perdition", but I think this thread is a nice tribute to someone who was a good friend to others on this forum.

I believe We all take a lot for granted.

I still can't really believe this is real...

BK really was the most caring, honest, and overall good guy you'd ever get to know. He loved animals and really cared for others. He worked hard and I don't ever remember him complaining about anything. He was damn witty, too. Mid conversation he could crack a hilarious joke, without hesitation...and oftentimes it'd take a few moments to realize how clever it was.


One time we were on a play and three of us (not BK, yet) were getting back roomed. There was like a regular back room area plus a small room, basically a holding cell type thing. We hear the main room door open and some security guards chatting and BK walking in. He got brought in with hand cuffs and since he forgot his belt that day, he asked the security guard to hold his pants up so they wouldn't fall down. Well sure enough, as soon as they got into the room, security guard let go of his pants, they went straight to the ground, and he said something like, "Ya didn't believe me my pants would fall down? I told ya!"

Then they were moving him to the secondary holding cell area and we heard him ask for the cuffs to be removed. The security guard said something like, "Don't try to fight us or anything...or else we'll taze you." Instantly, BK responded in his hilarious sarcastic voice, "Don't taze me, I'm a man of peace!" Although he said that sarcastically....it's true. He really was a man of peace.

I'm gonna miss ya, BK.

I am sorry for everyone's loss. 40 is too young. He sounded like a very nice man.

A wake up call, people, for those who are not in good health to try to do what's necessary to live longer (if that's what you want to do).

So sorry to hear about this loss. Sounds like he was a great man!! Your all in my thoughts.