Am I a whore? Or am I becoming wiser with age?

I run a successful small business. I must confess that at one time, I was very closed minded. Then, unbeknownst to me, I hired several gay employees. These employees then started attracting business from the gay community because the LGBT community thought that we were alternative friendly, and because the employees got the word out.

Today we advertise in various gay outlets, and do community outreach. It is hard to hate someone when they are in front of you. It is hard to hate a human being. It is easy to hate a caricature. Being in close proximity with diversity has made me realize that everyone is human, and everyone is beautiful.

I would like to believe that I grew and matured. But maybe I am just a whore who will do anything for money.

Discuss...

One a side note, I have absolutely zero gaydar. My female friends are incredulous with me..."how could you not know they were gay?".

I vote for wiser. You seem to be financially secure enough to not have to do anything you really felt distasteful.

I say wiser, although I AM curious to know what your industry is.

No gaydar? Don't sweat it. I recently read that women have a much stronger gaydar then men because they are always subconciously sizing men up as potential fathers.

Quote: DJTeddyBear

No gaydar? Don't sweat it. I recently read that women have a much stronger gaydar then men because they are always subconciously sizing men up as potential fathers.

I believe they have a stronger sense, but part because they feel they are not being paid attention to as much as they should be.

True story, hired into mortgage processing at a large bank. Class of about 15 and as usually happens, it cliqued up after a few days. Four of us go for beers after-three guys and a "guys girl"-think Elaine Benes. Anyways, instructor seems qualified and doing a good job as far as I was concerned. Gal says she thinks the guy is gay. And she announces it (and something else not for publication on a family-friendly website) loud enough that the people at the bar across the street can hear it. Two other dudes and me say, "Really?" Seriously, we never thought of it. Sure enough, few months later he blasts a "diversity committee" email about some LBGT thing or another. I emailed one of the other guys that, "so-and-so called that one, eh?"

With just a few way-over-the-top-with-all-stereotype exceptions I am among the last to pick up on it in co-workers. Then again, I am one of the most "put my head down and do my work don't bother anybody and nobody bother me" types around.

To the OP's "am I a whore" question, if the money spends the same don't worry. I'd only be concerned if say it was a bar or coffeehouse, etc I didn't want to become a "hangout" because I didn't want that type of bar.

On my first assignment for my job, I went to meet the sales person and the lead for the project who also happened to be my mentor. The first question I ask the guy is "how's your wife?" They laugh, and my mentor says, "I'm gay". A good laugh. Six years later, we're still good friends.

I have no gaydar, and frankly, I don't care.

Gays clearly have what I shall call "active" lives. Now I'm not referring solely to numbers of sexual partners or time and efforts or necessarily. Some gays have been exclusive partners since meeting but they still tend to have very active lives. Paducah, KY sold crack houses to gay artists for one dollar so as to turn around neighborhoods into an artsy, street-life oriented high real estate value area for the remaining buildings.

Some gays have high numbers of partners but they all seem to have active lives and constantly meet new people.

Now females usually start out viewing a situation as Are there any males here that are a threat and then ask themselves are there any males here that are of interest. Females do seem to sense a great many things about men and one is their sexual orientation. Of course in some situations its not difficult: an unmarried male living in West Hollywood who has roommates is probably very gay. Yet females pick up on subtle points as well and often detect closet cases. Gay males tend to have gaydar, I guess from necessity.

Shot and beer bars often change hands and sprout ferns and suddenly are money making gay hangouts. Gays seem to have high disposable incomes because they seek out careers where the upside is not limited by a need to conceal or conform. Gentrification is often foreshadowed by an increase in gay tenants and soon gay owners.

Some SitCom plots have revolved around straight owners of gay oriented businesses and I think the SitCom plots exist because the situation is a frequently encountered one. Irrespective of the orientation of the owners, businesses that welcome gays often prosper. I saw one restaurant double their wine sales in two weeks once the straight owner went on vacation and the straight but not anti gay manager made some subtle changes.

Gaydar? I guess its like any other skill. Some people have it to the max and some have it but not particularly strongly developed. Its like the ability to know that someone is looking at you. Females often know. Some males who hunt develop the skill, but females often know.

As with any group, minority or majority, you cannot make sweeping generalizations that apply to all members of the group.
There are many gays people who have only had a few partners and many who have had thousands.
The same is true with heterosexual men ( and women). Many heterosexual men wish they could have sex with any woman they find attractive.
For gay men the inhibiting force of female-controlled sexual access is not a factor.
Two men with similar love ' em and leave ' em mentalities do not need the approval of a female and are not inhibited by societal pressure.
Some are looking for a meaningful long term relationship and having a good time along the way.
Some are just looking for a meaningful relationship of twenty minutes or less.
I don't let puritanical notions inform my judgment.of other people's sexuality or sexual promiscuity.
It really doesn't have to be sentimental or meaningful.
For many people, it is viewed the same way as hunger, thirst or the need for air.
Just a function of life, a fun hobby, a sport, or a stress reliever.

I've worked in the same hospital for 29 years. Name some kind of, shall we say, different sexuality, and we have it or have had it. I'm talking about the employees, although we've had more than our share of AIDS patients. I'll not bore everyone with stories of some of my coworkers, but I've learned that you don't have an obligation to agree with everyone. You do, however, have an obligation to at least try to be courteous. You're not being a "whore who will do anything for money." You're living in the real world.

You're only a whore if you sleep with them for money.

Quote: klimate10

It is hard to hate someone when they are in front of you.

I don't know, divorce court might disprove that.

Why should it matter to a business owner if staff or clientele are gay? Job performance and cash flow are more important.

I think you are becoming wiser... much wiser. It doesn't matter who people sleep with, we are all still people. Would it make a difference if a 50 year old man or woman is sleeping with a 22 year old partner? Do we look at them differently?

This reminds me of a conversation with a 55 year old woman bragging about her 23 year old boyfriend. When queried why she would do this, her reply was "It's simple math... 23 goes into 55 more times that 53 goes into 55".

Jeffrey

Quote: jkluv7

This reminds me of a conversation with a 55 year old woman bragging about her 23 year old boyfriend. When queried why she would do this, her reply was "It's simple math... 23 goes into 55 more times that 53 goes into 55".

I would immediately look at her differently. And promptly vomit into the nearest trashcan.

Lets turn this into a gambling thread. Not to many gay AP's around however if you are a gay AP next time they give you heat use the old, your a gacist speech "You don't want my action because I'm gay." (LAWSUIT) I often see a Gay AP at Aliante playing .25 FPDW. I was standing behind him one evening when I asked him a question about the bounce back. I startled him so much he practically jumped out of his seat while screaming. Anyways who cares if your gay or not.

Quote: chrisjs87

I would immediately look at her differently. And promptly vomit into the nearest trashcan.

Standard response.

i think it's definitely wisest)

Wisest and most considerate.

You have become definitely wiser.

Quote:

"Wisest and most considerate."

Wisest, most considerate, and definitely better as whole.

It's more about wisdom and mental maturity.