klimate10
klimate10
Joined: Feb 6, 2012
  • Threads: 35
  • Posts: 396
February 12th, 2012 at 9:21:44 PM permalink
I run a successful small business. I must confess that at one time, I was very closed minded. Then, unbeknownst to me, I hired several gay employees. These employees then started attracting business from the gay community because the LGBT community thought that we were alternative friendly, and because the employees got the word out.

Today we advertise in various gay outlets, and do community outreach. It is hard to hate someone when they are in front of you. It is hard to hate a human being. It is easy to hate a caricature. Being in close proximity with diversity has made me realize that everyone is human, and everyone is beautiful.

I would like to believe that I grew and matured. But maybe I am just a whore who will do anything for money.

Discuss...

One a side note, I have absolutely zero gaydar. My female friends are incredulous with me..."how could you not know they were gay?".
buzzpaff
buzzpaff
Joined: Mar 8, 2011
  • Threads: 112
  • Posts: 5328
February 12th, 2012 at 9:33:34 PM permalink
I vote for wiser. You seem to be financially secure enough to not have to do anything you really felt distasteful.
DJTeddyBear
DJTeddyBear
Joined: Nov 2, 2009
  • Threads: 177
  • Posts: 10085
February 13th, 2012 at 4:45:45 AM permalink
I say wiser, although I AM curious to know what your industry is.

No gaydar? Don't sweat it. I recently read that women have a much stronger gaydar then men because they are always subconciously sizing men up as potential fathers.
Superstitions are silly, childish, irrational rituals, born out of fear of the unknown. But how much does it cost to knock on wood? 😁 Note that the same could be said for Religion. I.E. Religion is nothing more than organized superstition. 🤗
AZDuffman
AZDuffman
Joined: Nov 2, 2009
  • Threads: 219
  • Posts: 11217
February 13th, 2012 at 6:02:48 PM permalink
Quote: DJTeddyBear

No gaydar? Don't sweat it. I recently read that women have a much stronger gaydar then men because they are always subconciously sizing men up as potential fathers.



I believe they have a stronger sense, but part because they feel they are not being paid attention to as much as they should be.

True story, hired into mortgage processing at a large bank. Class of about 15 and as usually happens, it cliqued up after a few days. Four of us go for beers after-three guys and a "guys girl"-think Elaine Benes. Anyways, instructor seems qualified and doing a good job as far as I was concerned. Gal says she thinks the guy is gay. And she announces it (and something else not for publication on a family-friendly website) loud enough that the people at the bar across the street can hear it. Two other dudes and me say, "Really?" Seriously, we never thought of it. Sure enough, few months later he blasts a "diversity committee" email about some LBGT thing or another. I emailed one of the other guys that, "so-and-so called that one, eh?"

With just a few way-over-the-top-with-all-stereotype exceptions I am among the last to pick up on it in co-workers. Then again, I am one of the most "put my head down and do my work don't bother anybody and nobody bother me" types around.

To the OP's "am I a whore" question, if the money spends the same don't worry. I'd only be concerned if say it was a bar or coffeehouse, etc I didn't want to become a "hangout" because I didn't want that type of bar.
Tolerance is the virtue of believing in nothing
boymimbo
boymimbo
Joined: Nov 12, 2009
  • Threads: 17
  • Posts: 5988
February 13th, 2012 at 9:50:09 PM permalink
On my first assignment for my job, I went to meet the sales person and the lead for the project who also happened to be my mentor. The first question I ask the guy is "how's your wife?" They laugh, and my mentor says, "I'm gay". A good laugh. Six years later, we're still good friends.

I have no gaydar, and frankly, I don't care.
----- You want the truth! You can't handle the truth!
FleaStiff
FleaStiff
Joined: Oct 19, 2009
  • Threads: 264
  • Posts: 14161
February 15th, 2012 at 8:47:05 PM permalink
Gays clearly have what I shall call "active" lives. Now I'm not referring solely to numbers of sexual partners or time and efforts or necessarily. Some gays have been exclusive partners since meeting but they still tend to have very active lives. Paducah, KY sold crack houses to gay artists for one dollar so as to turn around neighborhoods into an artsy, street-life oriented high real estate value area for the remaining buildings.

Some gays have high numbers of partners but they all seem to have active lives and constantly meet new people.

Now females usually start out viewing a situation as Are there any males here that are a threat and then ask themselves are there any males here that are of interest. Females do seem to sense a great many things about men and one is their sexual orientation. Of course in some situations its not difficult: an unmarried male living in West Hollywood who has roommates is probably very gay. Yet females pick up on subtle points as well and often detect closet cases. Gay males tend to have gaydar, I guess from necessity.

Shot and beer bars often change hands and sprout ferns and suddenly are money making gay hangouts. Gays seem to have high disposable incomes because they seek out careers where the upside is not limited by a need to conceal or conform. Gentrification is often foreshadowed by an increase in gay tenants and soon gay owners.

Some SitCom plots have revolved around straight owners of gay oriented businesses and I think the SitCom plots exist because the situation is a frequently encountered one. Irrespective of the orientation of the owners, businesses that welcome gays often prosper. I saw one restaurant double their wine sales in two weeks once the straight owner went on vacation and the straight but not anti gay manager made some subtle changes.

Gaydar? I guess its like any other skill. Some people have it to the max and some have it but not particularly strongly developed. Its like the ability to know that someone is looking at you. Females often know. Some males who hunt develop the skill, but females often know.
WongBo
WongBo
Joined: Feb 3, 2012
  • Threads: 62
  • Posts: 2126
February 16th, 2012 at 6:11:41 AM permalink
As with any group, minority or majority, you cannot make sweeping generalizations that apply to all members of the group.
There are many gays people who have only had a few partners and many who have had thousands.
The same is true with heterosexual men ( and women). Many heterosexual men wish they could have sex with any woman they find attractive.
For gay men the inhibiting force of female-controlled sexual access is not a factor.
Two men with similar love ' em and leave ' em mentalities do not need the approval of a female and are not inhibited by societal pressure.
Some are looking for a meaningful long term relationship and having a good time along the way.
Some are just looking for a meaningful relationship of twenty minutes or less.
I don't let puritanical notions inform my judgment.of other people's sexuality or sexual promiscuity.
It really doesn't have to be sentimental or meaningful.
For many people, it is viewed the same way as hunger, thirst or the need for air.
Just a function of life, a fun hobby, a sport, or a stress reliever.
In a bet, there is a fool and a thief. - Proverb.
AlanRRT
AlanRRT
Joined: Jul 18, 2011
  • Threads: 1
  • Posts: 56
February 21st, 2012 at 8:32:08 PM permalink
I've worked in the same hospital for 29 years. Name some kind of, shall we say, different sexuality, and we have it or have had it. I'm talking about the employees, although we've had more than our share of AIDS patients. I'll not bore everyone with stories of some of my coworkers, but I've learned that you don't have an obligation to agree with everyone. You do, however, have an obligation to at least try to be courteous. You're not being a "whore who will do anything for money." You're living in the real world.
s2dbaker
s2dbaker
Joined: Jun 10, 2010
  • Threads: 51
  • Posts: 3259
February 21st, 2012 at 8:47:10 PM permalink
You're only a whore if you sleep with them for money.
Someday, joor goin' to see the name of Googie Gomez in lights and joor goin' to say to joorself, "Was that her?" and then joor goin' to answer to joorself, "That was her!" But you know somethin' mister? I was always her yuss nobody knows it! - Googie Gomez
rxwine
rxwine
Joined: Feb 28, 2010
  • Threads: 160
  • Posts: 9184
June 18th, 2012 at 8:23:27 PM permalink
Quote: klimate10

It is hard to hate someone when they are in front of you.



I don't know, divorce court might disprove that.
Quasimodo? Does that name ring a bell?

  • Jump to: