Do you feel better or worse when someone gives up something improtant for something important to you
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July 17th, 2010 at 3:40:15 PM
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It has happened to most people, espically if they have kids. (Or if you were a kid and had parents...)
You have somehting special come up and it is on a certain date. Not knowing the date might be special you announce, "Hey, I have 'x' coming up on <insert day> so save the date."
The reply comes back, "Well, that is when I usually do 'y' but I will cancel it for you."
Whenever this kind of thing would happen, I always felt bad. It wasn't some kind of reverse-attention-getter answer (think a woman saying to her man, "if you wnat to go, go" when she wants him to not go.) I always felt bad because I never wanted to put anybody out for something big but not a matter of life and death.
The problem comes in when the other person thought they were being nice but not appriciated since their big thing was not as big as I might have felt it was. They felt almost unapriciated.
So, assuming it is not life and death vs. once in a lifetime, do you feel better about yourself or do you feel guilty when a person gives up their maybe once-a-year improtant event for yours?
To get the borad away from political discussions at least for now.......................
It has happened to most people, espically if they have kids. (Or if you were a kid and had parents...)
You have somehting special come up and it is on a certain date. Not knowing the date might be special you announce, "Hey, I have 'x' coming up on <insert day> so save the date."
The reply comes back, "Well, that is when I usually do 'y' but I will cancel it for you."
Whenever this kind of thing would happen, I always felt bad. It wasn't some kind of reverse-attention-getter answer (think a woman saying to her man, "if you wnat to go, go" when she wants him to not go.) I always felt bad because I never wanted to put anybody out for something big but not a matter of life and death.
The problem comes in when the other person thought they were being nice but not appriciated since their big thing was not as big as I might have felt it was. They felt almost unapriciated.
So, assuming it is not life and death vs. once in a lifetime, do you feel better about yourself or do you feel guilty when a person gives up their maybe once-a-year improtant event for yours?
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