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October 6th, 2010 at 12:01:30 PM permalink
So tomorrow is RU OK? day, at least in Australia.

The purpose is to shed light on the depression/suicide problem, and to encourage people to ask their friends/colleagues to break the ice and check on each other. I learned about it from the Community Channel, which has a funny yet serious video about it.

So I'd like to use the opportunity to pose the question -- are you okay? Use this opportunity to unburden yourself if anything is bothering you. Most of us are anonymous, so what harm can it do? For what it's worth, I'll listen.
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October 6th, 2010 at 12:08:53 PM permalink
I appreciate your sincere concern Wizard. I am happy to report that I am okay.
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October 6th, 2010 at 12:11:57 PM permalink
I have suffered from depression in the past. I wrote my perspective for the H2G2 website that I used to frequent, and was published in a more comprehensive article at the same site. I know how hard it can be, so this is a great idea.

At the moment I seem to be in a bit of a funk. I have been doing a lot of soul searching, and realised I no longer have any real friends, I have acquaintances, colleagues, workmates, drinking buddies but I dont have anyone that I could consider a real friend. I have been feeling low lately, and I just dont know what to do. I dont even know why. I think it is because I have no one to confide in, no one to talk to. Well there is my wife, and I dont want to burden her with these things, and I have become quite adept at hiding these feelings from the world.

I guess what I am trying to say is I might not be OK, but I'm fine, I'm coping, and thanks for asking.
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October 6th, 2010 at 12:28:42 PM permalink
Hi Croupier,

Thank you for sharing. Although I don't know you or your wife, I suggest you share your feelings with her. Rather than being a burden, it may serve as a spark to re-ignite your relationship. If she were in a funk similar to you, wouldn't you want her to know that you cared, and were willing to help? I think she would appreciate your trusting her, that she would be supportive of you, and would work with you to make things better.
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October 6th, 2010 at 12:32:26 PM permalink
I'm doing something I love; I am poor, but not destitute; I listen to good music and I sing and dance; I write and read and make homemade fruit smoothies. I'm MORE than OK. Thanks for asking.
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October 6th, 2010 at 12:35:05 PM permalink
Quote: Croupier

At the moment I seem to be in a bit of a funk. I have been doing a lot of soul searching, and realised I no longer have any real friends.

Well there is my wife, and I dont want to burden her with these things, and I have become quite adept at hiding these feelings from the world.



I strongly suspect that your wife would WANT you to "burden" her with those things. I would also submit that as long as you have your wife, you should have at least one "real friend". So tell her what you've just told us.
The fact that a believer is happier than a skeptic is no more to the point than the fact that a drunken man is happier than a sober one. The happiness of credulity is a cheap and dangerous quality.---George Bernard Shaw
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October 6th, 2010 at 12:38:03 PM permalink
The expression is overused, but thanks for sharing. I think it is tough for married people to form close friendships. You're busy, they're busy, it is hard finding the time. Maybe a good next step would be to spend more time with the buddies you do have. There is a decent chance at least one will reciprocate, and take it from buddies to friends. Just being around other people for any reason can't hurt. Feel free to keep it going here too.
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October 6th, 2010 at 12:42:21 PM permalink
Quote: Wizard


So I'd like to use the opportunity to pose the question -- are you okay? Use this opportunity to unburden yourself if anything is bothering you. Most of us are anonymous, so what harm can it do? For what it's worth, I'll listen.


At first I thought what a crazy thread.

Then it got me thinking.
and the more I thought about it, the better I felt.

Now I feel really good.
Damn, it actually works.

Without saying too much, I am not destined to live on this earth for many more days and I find myself searching for things and activities that makes me feel better.

Thanks Wizard for listening and making me feel better.
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October 6th, 2010 at 12:45:09 PM permalink
Thanks everyone. I did not want to imply my wife isnt a friend. She is the best friend I have ever had. I think I'm falling victim to the trust issues i mentioned in my blog here. It might also be because Im currently frustrated creatively. I cannot find a way to properly express myself through either music or writing, two things I really found helped me through other tough times.
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October 6th, 2010 at 3:15:50 PM permalink
1st guy: talking to a guy at the bar: "hey man, whats your problem???"

2nd guy: "well, my wife left me, took the kids and the car, cleaned out the savings account, I lost my job and what litle money I have I drink, smoke and gamble it away and I guess my problem is that I've never been happier in my whole life."

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