WongBo
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February 21st, 2012 at 1:03:20 AM permalink
It's a little different.
At least you attended the wedding out of the three. The entire reason for the existence of a bachelor party is the wedding.
Going to the bachelor party Only is an obvious advantage play in this case.
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February 21st, 2012 at 5:11:12 AM permalink
Quote: AcesAndEights

So, a question of etiquette...is it appropriate to attend a bachelor party but forgo attending the actual wedding? In this case, the bachelor part is on April 1st, in Vegas, and the wedding is on May 12....in Peoria, IL. :/



I used to live in Peoria, IL, and I can tell you right now, there's no shame in saying you have a conflict for the wedding...

If you like the smell of yeast permeating the air (especially during spring), you'd love Peoria. They do have the Par-a-Dice owned by Boyd, but that place is kind of a dump, though I did like a lot of the dealers there.

As far as etiquette, you probably shouldn't attend the party if you're not going to the wedding, but the reverse is not true. I couldn't attend my brother-in-law's bachelor party, but I was in the wedding, so I kind of had to go to it.
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February 21st, 2012 at 6:18:46 AM permalink
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I was in that situation about two years ago. The bachelor party was here, the wedding party in Pennsylvania, and the actual wedding in Hawaii. I was invited to all three but only did the wedding, due to the long distance of the other two....

Uh..., I'm having a little problem with the geography here. Hawaii was close enough for the Wizard, but PA and "here" were too long-distance? I can understand other justifications but not the long-distance issue. (I am assuming that for the Wizard two years ago, "here" means Las Vegas.
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February 21st, 2012 at 6:53:48 AM permalink
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Uh..., I'm having a little problem with the geography here. Hawaii was close enough for the Wizard, but PA and "here" were too long-distance? I can understand other justifications but not the long-distance issue. (I am assuming that for the Wizard two years ago, "here" means Las Vegas.



Sorry, I meant I only did the Bachelor Party.
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February 21st, 2012 at 7:03:50 AM permalink
Quote: Wizard

Sorry, I meant I only did the Bachelor Party.

Doh! That should have been obvious, but I just accepted what you said and assumed I had confused something.
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February 21st, 2012 at 7:59:45 AM permalink
We're talking about not only different dates, but different cities. All rules of ettiquite are off. It's OK to go to one and not the other. Doesn't matter which.

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Often, wedding ceremonies are in the morning with the reception in the afternoon or evening. I.E. There are several hours between them giving guests that have to travel nothing to do in-between. As a result, guests often skip the ceremony. I think that is not only bad ettiquite, but downright rude. Of course, I also think it's inconsiderate of the bride & groom to schedule it in that manner, and to not also schedule some activity inbetween.

Because of this, I often advise my wedding guests to have their wedding ceremony at the reception venue's own chappel. The wedding will then be immediately followed by cocktail hour, so nobody has any excuse to skip the ceremony other than tardiness. And that's no excuse.

If they insist on having the wedding ceremony off-site, schedule it later in the day, so it ends about 1/2 hour before the reception begins.

Different dates and different cities? You've got to expect that people will pick and choose.
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February 21st, 2012 at 8:46:32 AM permalink
ConsiderIng the probability of divorce, I would say the bachelor party is the better bet.
50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce.
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February 21st, 2012 at 12:01:14 PM permalink
Quote: DJTeddyBear

Often, wedding ceremonies are in the morning with the reception in the afternoon or evening. I.E. There are several hours between them giving guests that have to travel nothing to do in-between. As a result, guests often skip the ceremony. I think that is not only bad ettiquite, but downright rude. Of course, I also think it's inconsiderate of the bride & groom to schedule it in that manner, and to not also schedule some activity inbetween.

Because of this, I often advise my wedding guests to have their wedding ceremony at the reception venue's own chappel. The wedding will then be immediately followed by cocktail hour, so nobody has any excuse to skip the ceremony other than tardiness. And that's no excuse.

If they insist on having the wedding ceremony off-site, schedule it later in the day, so it ends about 1/2 hour before the reception begins.


One of my friends had a similar setup, where the wedding and the reception were about 3 or 4 hours apart. The reception was in a hotel where almost everyone was staying. Now, the bride and groom were both members of a sorority and a fraternity, respectively, and most of the wedding party and a large portion of the guests were made up of their brothers/sisters. We therefore spent the interim getting shitfaced in our hotel rooms playing drinking games. The reception got a bit sloppy.

(I should really apologize to my brothers for reinforcing negative stereotypes. Frats aren't all about getting shitfaced. Only about 49% I think :) )

Back to the original question, I think I'm going to go to the wedding too. It will be chance to see a lot of college buddies I haven't seen in a while. I already have my tickets booked for the bachelor party, and originally wasn't planning on even thinking about the wedding with the added expense, travel headaches, etc., but my girlfriend informed me that it would be in poor form to skip it (hence the question here). I'll check out the Pair-a-dice, for sure.
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February 21st, 2012 at 12:18:03 PM permalink
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February 21st, 2012 at 12:44:02 PM permalink
Quote: AcesAndEights

Back to the original question, I think I'm going to go to the wedding too. It will be chance to see a lot of college buddies I haven't seen in a while. I already have my tickets booked for the bachelor party, and originally wasn't planning on even thinking about the wedding with the added expense, travel headaches, etc., but my girlfriend informed me that it would be in poor form to skip it (hence the question here). I'll check out the Pair-a-dice, for sure.



I'm guessing your girlfriend has never been to Peoria. If she had, she would help you come up with an excuse to miss the wedding. Although most women do seem to love weddings.
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