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LarryS
LarryS
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July 15th, 2014 at 9:19:51 AM permalink
Ahigh

I have gambled at least every weekend since 1980(and sometimes once during the week as well)......so I too wondered if I was addicted....untill a few years ago I was between jobs and although I could afford it...I stopped gambling(for over 3 months) because I didnt feel it was right to use family funds for gambling if I wanst bringing anything in.
I did not become irritable, lose sleep, lose interest in life, have personality changes, lose appetite, get depressed.(all the signs of withdrawl).
So I had my answer.

However gambling every 8 waking hour is a different animal.

If you were really interested in identifying if you have a problem, you wouldnt be here. Although I am in healthcare I am not a specialist in addiction.
I will not even attempt to diagnose or offer an opinion on your mental health. I think Mr V said way way back that your energy should be devoted to hooking up with a therapist (at least for one initial session to see whats goig on).

I concour

your over reaction to peoples comments, by posting picture after picture of personal pictures to try to prove you are normal says to me something just isnt right.
The more you do that the more you draw attention to something being wrong.

You dont have to prove to US that everything is peachy in your social life. We go on with our own lives after reading your posts.
You have to convince yourself and those around you. Not by some sort of declaration...but by the way they observe you living your life.


in your words a couple of people close to youtold you that you have a problem. Well then that says it all
We are not close to you. We dont see everything that goes on daily. We know only what you choose to tell us.
We dont hear your daily comments, see your actions, see your interactions, look you in the eyes, sense your angst. We just see these words and are expected to make a valued judgement,

I defer to "people close to you".

They know best. If THEY have reason for concern....all the pictures that you post here wont dissolve their concern.

You cant BS those folks....being close to you they can see through it.

It seems you are searching for at least one person to say..:"its all good..just keep doin what you are doin." But it hasnt happened and its frustrating for you.

People close to you wont say that...so there is a better chance of that happening on a board filled with people who dont know you.

I will not diagnose, I can just say that there is enough there...for you to look into a medical remedy....at least get an opinion.
Lemieux66
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July 15th, 2014 at 9:28:40 AM permalink
Quote: MrV

Let's cut to the chase.

We can play armchair psychologist ad infinitum, but it makes sense to leave it to the pros.

This might be a good time for us to reflect and do a bit of self-examination.

Here's twenty questions.

Answer them candidly and truthfully, then you'll pretty much know whether you are a compulsive gambler.



My problem is the definition of "gambler" on this quiz. Not all gambling is the same. A slot machine junkie and a intelligent card counter or poker player are on opposite ends of the spectrum even though they all technically are gambling.
10 eyes for an eye. 10 teeth for a tooth. 10 bucks for a buck?! Hit the bad guys where it hurts the most: the face and the wallet.
rainman
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July 15th, 2014 at 9:33:16 AM permalink
Hi my name is rainman and I have a gambling problem :)
LarryS
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July 15th, 2014 at 10:44:35 AM permalink
Quote: rainman

Hi my name is rainman and I have a gambling problem :)



making light and or trivializing a serious topic is a no no. Its like trivializing the letters GLBT.....by adding a bunch of other letters to it.

quick

say you are liberal......
boymimbo
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July 15th, 2014 at 11:05:39 AM permalink
I scored a 9 on the quiz. If I was to take a historical annual quiz, 11-12 would be my highest score, while 1 might be my lowest.

I don't think an addiction is necessarily bad. Tens of millions of Americans are addicted to caffeine, millions more to sugar. Sugar makes you fat; caffeine makes you awake.

Gambling addictions are fine if your family is fine with it and you can afford it.

Gambling addictions are not fine if your family life suffers and/or you can't afford it.
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Ahigh
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July 15th, 2014 at 11:10:30 AM permalink
Quote: LarryS

Ahigh

I have gambled at least every weekend since 1980(and sometimes once during the week as well)......so I too wondered if I was addicted....untill a few years ago I was between jobs and although I could afford it...I stopped gambling(for over 3 months) because I didnt feel it was right to use family funds for gambling if I wanst bringing anything in.
I did not become irritable, lose sleep, lose interest in life, have personality changes, lose appetite, get depressed.(all the signs of withdrawl).
So I had my answer.

However gambling every 8 waking hour is a different animal.

If you were really interested in identifying if you have a problem, you wouldnt be here. Although I am in healthcare I am not a specialist in addiction.
I will not even attempt to diagnose or offer an opinion on your mental health. I think Mr V said way way back that your energy should be devoted to hooking up with a therapist (at least for one initial session to see whats goig on).

I concour

your over reaction to peoples comments, by posting picture after picture of personal pictures to try to prove you are normal says to me something just isnt right.
The more you do that the more you draw attention to something being wrong.

You dont have to prove to US that everything is peachy in your social life. We go on with our own lives after reading your posts.
You have to convince yourself and those around you. Not by some sort of declaration...but by the way they observe you living your life.


in your words a couple of people close to youtold you that you have a problem. Well then that says it all
We are not close to you. We dont see everything that goes on daily. We know only what you choose to tell us.
We dont hear your daily comments, see your actions, see your interactions, look you in the eyes, sense your angst. We just see these words and are expected to make a valued judgement,

I defer to "people close to you".

They know best. If THEY have reason for concern....all the pictures that you post here wont dissolve their concern.

You cant BS those folks....being close to you they can see through it.

It seems you are searching for at least one person to say..:"its all good..just keep doin what you are doin." But it hasnt happened and its frustrating for you.

People close to you wont say that...so there is a better chance of that happening on a board filled with people who dont know you.

I will not diagnose, I can just say that there is enough there...for you to look into a medical remedy....at least get an opinion.



Both of these people asked me if I thought I had a problem. One of them, I went through the checklist and decided, "nope, not me."

Neither one of them accused me of having a gambling problem.

There's no question I play frequently.

I don't think there's a problem. Even still.

To be perfectly honest, I think I have a bigger problem spending time on this forum than I do spending time at the casino.
Zcore13
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July 15th, 2014 at 11:15:24 AM permalink
Quote: Ahigh



There's no question I play frequently.

I don't think there's a problem. Even still.

To be perfectly honest, I think I have a bigger problem spending time on this forum than I do spending time at the casino.



They are related. Same basic issue.


ZCore13
I am an employee of a Casino. Former Table Games Director,, current Pit Supervisor. All the personal opinions I post are my own and do not represent the opinions of the Casino or Tribe that I work for.
Ahigh
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July 15th, 2014 at 11:16:45 AM permalink
Quote: Zcore13

They are related. Same basic issue.



Yeah, my wife definitely hates seeing me on this forum. I will tell you that much.

She hates the sound of my laptop clicking on facebook too when I wake up and she's still asleep.
MrWarmth
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July 15th, 2014 at 11:30:27 AM permalink
Unsolicited advice for Ahigh: If you like what you got, keep doing what you're doing.

Unsolicited advice for everyone else: He's not going to change until it hurts him more to stay the same. Don't get your collective panties in a wad trying to convince him of something he may or may not be. If you think he introduced this for ulterior reasons, don't feed them and stop posting in this thread. You're not going to "win the internet" by brow-beating him into convincing/realizing/whatever he's an addict.
MrV
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July 15th, 2014 at 1:06:50 PM permalink
Quote:

other people are not talking to me as a result of the sequence of events unfolded after this happened...A couple of people have told me that they think I have a problem (just two people, really, but they are close to me)

Quote:



Just have to ask: if this experience has not acted as an epiphany, was it instead a reaffirmation?

"What, me worry?"

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