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Need advice on what to do with my suspicious BF
| January 9th, 2012 at 2:16:51 PM permalink | |
| coupe123 Member since: Jan 9, 2012 Threads: 1 Posts: 1 | It started off with a lie....told me his wife died but later i found that he lives with his wife and two kids, i asked him about it and he said that he is going through a divorce, well, i know that 'all married men say that' but on one occasion when he disappeared for 24hours I was really worried and called his wife, all she said was 'This is not his phone, may i get ur name so i can have him call you' I wanted to know he is ok and said ' I am really worried abt him, she simply said, 'oh i know he is fine' dint ask me who i am or anything. so that made me think may be he is going through a divorce. He almost never answers when i call him, but just calls me back I have never been to his house says....they are trying not to let the kids know about the divorce worst thing is He borrowed money from me about 5k, and now he needs more. He claimed he owns some property which i later found out that he does not own it. I hired a private investigator do background seach on him and he apparently was arrested for not paying child support god knows to who, and he also got a restraining order in dec 2011......very long list of wat i found my question is I am right now going through torture.....dont know what will happen if i confront him with ...."I know all about you" Please someone advise me what to do, we have started an online business together recently, now i dont know how to get out of this without him getting viscious. I have known this guy for 1 year :-( |
| January 9th, 2012 at 2:50:24 PM permalink | |
| Wizard Administrator Member since: Oct 14, 2009 Threads: 313 Posts: 6783 | I hope after all that you're at least at the point of recognizing the question isn't whether to end it -- but how. I favor making as little drama out of it as possible. Tell him you want to end it and give him as few reasons as possible. If you explain everything you know, then he will probably fool you with some false explanation for everything. You had just cause to leave with one-tenth the red flags raised above -- so something is drawing you to this bum. This is always the case with such "cheating boyfriend" questions. If you lay all your cards on the table is he may get violent. Another possibility is he will be vindictive and not negotiate on the business. So, again, minimize the drama. This shared business is the hard part. If at all possible I would try to buy out his half. If he won't sell you may just have to give him yours, as it sounds like he can't afford to pay anything for it. If he you have to let your half go to get out of this, then consider that a cost of doing business. It's not whether you win or lose; it's whether or not you had a good bet. |
| January 9th, 2012 at 3:03:30 PM permalink | |
| AZDuffman Member since: Nov 2, 2009 Threads: 153 Posts: 2912 | Is this for real? I am going to take a really wild guess and say by "starting" an online business you mean you invested money in his online business idea. Am I close? You are in his trick bag con job. $5K plus a PI plus the business, I figure you are in about $10K. Am I close here? Just do not answer any calls nor agree to see him. Cut your losses in the "online business" and move on with your life. He will find another meal ticket. And next time a guy says "I'm getting a divorce" tell him to call you when it is finalized and he has his own place. "The Roman Empire wasn't planned, but neither did it 'just happen.'" |
| January 9th, 2012 at 3:09:25 PM permalink | |
| FleaStiff Member since: Oct 19, 2009 Threads: 75 Posts: 4822 | Gee, what a reputable guy to be a partner with. What debts is this business running up in your name that he hasn't told you about? |
| January 9th, 2012 at 4:16:05 PM permalink | |
| MrV Member since: Feb 13, 2010 Threads: 58 Posts: 804 | Obviously the two of you are having great sex; you certainly seem to enjoy getting screwed! LOL! |
| January 9th, 2012 at 4:46:23 PM permalink | |
| DJTeddyBear Member since: Nov 2, 2009 Threads: 105 Posts: 5726 | It sounds like you're worried that he's going to react badly when you cut things off. Cut your losses. Let him have everything and get out of there. Call it an expensive lesson learned. That was totally uncalled for. Superstitions are silly, childish, irrational rituals, born out of fear of the unknown.
But how much does it cost to knock on wood? |
| January 9th, 2012 at 6:53:05 PM permalink | |
| MrV Member since: Feb 13, 2010 Threads: 58 Posts: 804 |
Oh, please. The OP is obviously trolling. "Her" first post on a Las Vegas gambling board, and what kind of nonsense does "she" post? You've been had. |
| January 9th, 2012 at 7:19:36 PM permalink | |
| DJTeddyBear Member since: Nov 2, 2009 Threads: 105 Posts: 5726 | If you've paid any attention at all, you know that for whatever silly reason, this board attracts people looking for relationship advice. I stand by my comment. Superstitions are silly, childish, irrational rituals, born out of fear of the unknown.
But how much does it cost to knock on wood? |
| January 9th, 2012 at 8:16:27 PM permalink | |
| FinsRule Member since: Dec 23, 2009 Threads: 52 Posts: 779 |
Why would anyone sign up to this board and make up a story and wait for comments? And why would a guy do it pretending to be a female? |
| January 9th, 2012 at 9:05:47 PM permalink | |
| MrV Member since: Feb 13, 2010 Threads: 58 Posts: 804 |
Dude, where did you grow up, in a cave? |
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