boyfriend troubles

Quote: ItsCalledSoccer

people won't change unless it hurts more to stay the same.

Gold, Jerry! Pure gold!

Marry him. Have children. He'll change. April fools!!

Dump him and get counseling on relationships.

Quote: boymimbo

Dating is supposed to be a trial period. Cheating is not tolerable at all (unless you are into the open relationship thing) during the trial.

There is a progression to such things and often the various stages are not clearly defined or understood on a mutual basis. It may indeed have been a problem of communication and awareness. Either way, good luck to you.

Quote: mustangsally

Us girls have to snoop when our guy is caught telling many lies. My current BF of 2 years was funny, handsome and fun to be with at first. Then all sorts of missed dates, excuses of why he was seen with other girls while I was at home by myself.

I did listen to what my brain said after I looked at his most recent calls in his cell phone.
It helped me to lay down the law on what I was expecting from our relationship and that was 9 months ago. Our communication skills with each other is now fantastic and I think I have a keeper, and so does my Mom.

You have to excuse us for being skeptical, but you said your boyfriend lies, so you used subterfuge to catch him at his lies and as a result he has reformed since you now had proof instead of simply rumors.

Maybe you didn't mean it that way, but most people would assume that he just learned to cover his trail better.

You may be too young to remember the scene in Heartburn (written by Nora Ephron, starring Jack Nicholson, and Meryl Streep). When she confronts him about his philandering her dialogue is:

- I know everything. It's all here.
You didn't even hide the evidence.
You just threw it in a drawer.
- Hotels. Motels.
You couldn't even pay cash, like a normal philanderer.
You charged everything.