Women’s Attractiveness Poll for the Men

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So, for a while now, I had been wondering about something that I find interesting. As many of you know, at the beginning of this year I weighed over 250 pounds. Although I didn't, and still don't, date much, I never felt that I had a hard time when I was out and about finding men who were attracted to me for one reason or another. It could've been they thought I was pretty, it could've been they were into big boobs (and boy, did I have them!), it's possible they just naturally were attracted to "bigger" women, that that was their type, or it's possible they just simply liked something about me and my personality. Of course, there's always the option that they were drunk and looking to get laid and didn't care about anything other than I was female, lol!

Anyway, I was curious to take an unscientific poll here in the forum to see what you heterosexual guys find important. Since I am losing weight I am guessing that I will notice a difference in attention I get from the male gender. But in order to answer one of the questions in the poll above, ask yourself,

"Which mindset do I usually fall into when I find myself being attracted to a woman?"

Think carefully cuz you can only pick one!

P.S. If you voted in the previous thread vote again here cuz I had the original one deleted cuz it messed up.

If going solely on physical traits, then face and body must be taken into account, not just separately, but as a whole, how they appear together. It should work out synergistically.

On the other hand, every person in the world has some random thing they are attracted too (i.e. color of eyes, ears (stick out or not), nose shape/size, etc.) that will totally trump traditional "looks".

I chose Body & Face are equally important. They are, but even more important is personality.

It's the package... the greatest body can be ugly if the words coming out of it are offensive, dull or otherwise unattractive (to the listener).

While it doesn't matter how intellectually stimulating I find some women, if I don't get excited about them physically, it's a bad deal. That way round is worse, as it can be harder to reconcile. And I've dated some women who on first meeting I wasn't immediately attracted to, but after hanging out for a while they grew on me.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, just it can be in more eyes for some people than others.

Add me to the "whole package" group. Appearance-wise no one thing stands out, but a pretty face on an ugly body is no better than a good body but ugly face.

An equally important factor is the intangible, "how does she carry herself?" This is a hard one, has to be on film not just a still pic. But it is very important. Call it "grace" if you like, but it can be the difference.

Interesting study just released on how Men and Women View Bodies Differently

There was a study done where they found that for every inch shorter than 5'10" that a man was, he needed to make $40,000 more per inch to be viewed as equally attractive. Just saw that the other day but heard that before.

One thing I hate is when men LIE about their height! And your actual height is your height barefoot, NOT with shoes on or what you WISH your height was!

Quote: HotBlonde

There was a study done where they found that for every inch shorter than 5'10" that a man was, he needed to make $40,000 more per inch to be viewed as equally attractive. Just saw that the other day but heard that before.

One thing I hate is when men LIE about their height! And your actual height is your height barefoot, NOT with shoes on or what you WISH your height was!

I hate when women lie about their looks every single day of their lives:

i.e. - makeup, padded bras, push up bras, butt lifting jeans, , high heels, Spanx

Fine, you broke me.

6'3" + 1/2, damnit, 6'3" + 1/2...are you people happy now!?

I'm just kidding, though I am 75.5 inches tall, not 76.

Quote: Mission146

Fine, you broke me.

6'3" + 1/2, damnit, 6'3" + 1/2...are you people happy now!?

I'm just kidding, though I am 75.5 inches tall, not 76.

That's what I'm talking about, pure honesty! I'm 5'8" + 1/4 to be exact

The most important question was not asked: "Who is your God?"

Quote: DeMango

The most important question was not asked: "Who is your God?"

Um... I'm not sure what you mean exactly.

Simple: It points to spiritual values. If it's all about her, the relationship will be very short. Of course selfish men will not see that as a problem, but then they are their own god.

I think a cute face is definitely important. I almost find it sad when a woman who is really pretty is 200 lbs overweight. Having a little extra weight is not a terrible thing, it's when it seems you have zero regard for your health and self worth that's disturbing.

I find myself much more attracted to dark complexions, dark hair, big lips and great smile. The teeth are very important. If a woman is very attractive, but looks like she has two sets of teeth they're so messed up, I'm not into it. I think this is because people have always complementing my teeth and how nice and straight they are since I was a kid. So that to me is important, but since I've never had a girlfriend, I've decided to try and not fixate on small things like that, and truthfully I've gotten over it.

But then for some reason, some girls just get my heart pumping and my face flush and they aren't the hottest girl in the room. I was at my local bar a couple weeks ago, I noticed this girl walk in (guess what, dark hair and dark complexion with nice smile). She saw me and smiled. I would glance over at her and we would lock eyes, usually she would smile. She's not the hottest girl in the room, and has kind of a chubby face. Turns out she works at the bar (that night just came in as a patron) and I've seen her since and she's always smiled. I'm so nervous around her I can't talk to her (But damn I want to so bad).

Some girls I'm attracted to on a carnal sexual level, while others I develop crushes on and imagine developing relationships with. A girl in high school was relatively cute, and I was sexually attracted to her, but really wasn't the type I would want to date. This other girl (who in fact I've been trying to reconnect with recently) has an awesome personality, is very attractive, but in this weird normal kind of way. Perhaps I'm more attracted to her because I feel like she would date me, while the perfectly tanned, perfectly manicured face and perfectly planned miniskirt of the girl at the bar wouldn't give me the time of day. I guess this girl is just down to earth.

I find myself attracted to a lot of different kinds of women, but ultimately there's seems to be some hidden quality that attracts me the most.

In regards to the last comment about being nervous around someone of the opposite sex that you can't talk to I can relate to. I've noticed that if I'm out and about and I see a guy who is really attractive, even though I think he's really cute, I turn all weird and feel not good enough to talk to him, I guess automatically thinking that he would never be interested in me, that the girl he would be attracted to would have a better tan, nicer nails, be prettier, have more stylish clothes, come from a better family, etc. than me. I've always struggled with this and looking back I found that the guys that I've dated in my past were all guys "below me", so to speak. They were all "safe", guys that really liked me, most of the time more than I liked them, so it was safe to be with them cuz I didn't have to doubt that they wanted to be with me.

In all that I noticed that for a long time I had been carrying around the idea that I could never attract an ideal guy for me, according to my standards. The funny thing is one of the lessons that I've learned in the weight loss challenge I've been involved in now for over half a year is that I do deserve these things, where in the past, deep down inside I didn't ever fully believe that. I deserve to have a rockin' body, I deserve to have an amazing man in my life, I deserve to accomplish all the things I want to accomplish and live the kind of lifestyle I want to live. I do still find myself being intimidated by really attractive guys, but now I can remind myself in the middle of feeling "less than" that it's simply not true and I can comfort myself that way. I can also remind myself that there are some really good looking guys who end up with not so good looking girls so I definitely have a chance!

I'll pick a regular face with a nice body anytime, for a few reasons.

We can't pick our faces. It's not a girl's fault if she wasn't blessed with high cheekbones and almond eyes, but if she still holds her head up with confidence, that means everything to me. I'm not particularly pretty either, so I want someone on an equal level. A hot girl who's been getting by on her looks all her life is probably a high-maintenance bitch by the time she's in her 30's, and who wants that? Some pretty girls who start to lose their looks as they age try to keep it with more makeup, plastic surgery, boob jobs, pricier clothes, etc, and that just makes her look desperate.

Less-than-pretty women with great bodies; now that's what I'm looking for. That tells me she exercises regularly, understands nutrition and eats right, cares about herself, and probably has the healthy glow of a tan. She can improve her looks with long hair. If she doesn't wear makeup either, that tells me she's got enough self esteem also. Make up is awful. Women only wear it for other women I think. Too much and she looks like a clown. What guy wants to kiss caked-on lipstick? If she can't leave the house without makeup, that says something about her self-esteem.

To me, a hot face with fat body makes me think "wow, what a shame. What happened to her that made her totally lose the gift she once had?" Think Kirstie Alley, Sally Strothers, Charlene Tilton.

Plain face with hot body makes me think "She probably jogs everyday with her dog, eats rice and salads instead of hitting the bar scene", so I'm gonna ask her if she plays tennis. She may not have guys drooling over her, so she may welcome a little flirting.

Hot face and a hot body? Sweet combo, just don't ruin it by being a bitch or lighting up a cigarette.

Jennifer Aniston just gets hotter every year, and from everything I've read about her, she's a humble sweetie-pie who's never in the tabloids for negative traits. Jessica Alba and Scarlet Johanssen too. Jennifer Lopez also gets better looking every year, but has a diva personality. Lindsey Lohan (bless her heart) is an example of someone who was very beautiful a decade ago and does everything she can to throw it away. Partygirl, always in trouble with the drugs and car wrecks, bad-news parents...what a shame. Perhaps someday she'll look back on these years and realize she could've had it all, but she let it slip away.

I met a woman recently whose face was absolute gorgeous, but her body was a bit plumper than I would really like. So, let's say her face is a 10, and her body is a 6. I realized that I would much prefer if her face was only an 8, and body was also an 8. So, I marked the response for both body and face being important.

I'll say that I'm pickier today than I was when I was younger. They have to be pretty without makeup, weight proportionate to their height, but most of all have the ability to laugh at themselves. If they take themselves too seriously I don't care if they are super models. That to me is the most unattractive thing in any human.