DONT WANT TO LOSE LOVE..

Thoughts:

1) Don't most doctors tell women to abstain from sex for 4-6 weeks after giving birth? Since you just had the baby 3 weeks ago, he needs to understand that you need time to physically heal.

2) You didn't take maternity leave? Yikes!

3) If this guy hasn't proposed to you after you've had three kids together, he's NEVER going to.

4) You are both very young still, but he sounds more immature. Sure, he still wants to go out & have fun, then expects to come back and have sex with you, regardless of the time or situation. That's selfish on his part.

5) A large part of being a father is sacrificing yourself for the good of the family. For example, I sacrifice money I could be gambling with in order to grow my kids' college funds. That's why I play at the $5 blackjack table instead of the $25 table. I sacrifice my free time to help coach their soccer teams. I sacrifice some of my PTO days to volunteer for chaperoning their field trips or special school days. This is what fathers do. Now you haven't mentioned any specifics, but the general impression I'm getting from your post is that your BF isn't giving up much. That makes him a sperm donor, not a father.

6) You do have a lot on your shoulders, but he should too. Relationships (and marriage) are about partnering with each other. It sounds to me like you need to consider how much of a partner he really is (or should be).

Quote: MrV

Girl, you need to savvy up.

Tell this putz that if leaves you, you'll go on welfare and the State will come after him like flies on shlt, setting a very high child support rate.

More like the tax check I mailed in today is going to pay for this.... This has foodstamps and medicade written all over it. STOP having children!

His dad your dad etc. needs to have a talk with this guy and tell him to man up, WTF is he doing hanging out with his buddy in the morning, please tell me he works.

I don't know if you were in love with him at 15, probably not.
He got what he wanted: some fun and getting you knocked up pretty regularly.
You got what you wanted: some sense of having a boyfriend and his knocking you up all the time is the right thing to happen, even though its an "on and off" relationship of some sort.
You will always have an attitude problem if you ever say no to him.

Since this is the type of relationship you've had for several years, why don't you just accept that is what it will be for the next several years until he finds someone younger.