Hey Greasy, welcome back.
Let me say this, about that. The value of one sufferer helping another is without parallel.
Everyone has heard of "the disease", and we are all instilled with the fear. The thing is, it's just a disease, like heart disease, or liver or kidney or other serious disease. Once I knew that, it got easier. Somehow we are all made to be so afraid of the "C" word, or disease. I am glad I don't have Aids, although how long has Magic Johnson been running around with it, 30 years?
I try to tell anyone that will hear,,,about meeting with a local group of cancer survivors. If not for your benefit, then for theirs. It helps alleviate the mental suffering, if not the physical, to be face to face with another human being, that truly does know "how it feels". IMO
I don't know where you live, but I know there is a meeting not far away as cancer is expected to infect one in three women and one in two men, if we live long enough. A local oncologist, or hospital should have flyers available, I had to search as the one I wanted to find wasn't on the www, but they are around, supported at least partially by the ACS.
The meetings make me feel better, although I just turned 60, I am the youngblood in my group and somehow it feels like they are hoping I will carry the torch a ways further. I go to a men's group, there are mixed and women's groups.
I can feel empathy towards a woman with breast cancer, but I can't truly know what that feels like. Similarly she could feel the same way about prostate. It works, it helps, it's also free, sort of.
There are also online groups, it is strangely comforting to communicate with other sufferers/ survivors.
One group I visited is http://csn.cancer.org/forum,
affiliated with the American cancer society. There is a lot of useful information from those that have been here before,