I just don't know what to do?

My name is jazzy and ive been dating my fiance for six in a half years also we have a gorgeous seven month year old son together, no things haven't been perfect but, we have our good times and our bad times. Lately we been having some family and money problems "who dosn't" it seems like it's really getting to him, anyways there is a huge age difference iam nineteen and he is thirty-four but, that really don't bother me no matter what anyone has to say "I LOVE HIM" and there are a couple of things that are running threw my mind that just don't seem right to me. So i need some advice, first off we both have cheated and we both have trust issues but, we looked past that and moved on. All of a sudden i find a condom in his room and we don't use condoms "not at all" but, he tells me he got it from me, what im trying to figure out is why is it still there and he never told me to throw it out, the only thing is he has a friend that constantly cheats on his girlfriend and he hangs with him whenever he get's the chance to play the game. My fiance dosn't party, go to the club, drink liquor, smoke weed, or stay out all night, this why it's hard to tell what's going on and finally he use always have sex with me now it's when he feels like it or he will turn me down and then ive saved the best for last he throws girls in my face telling me how he has been sleeping with them and that they have been dating, he always accuse me of cheating but, when i accuse him he isnt cheating, he won't believe me but i have to believe him and lord knows i aint been cheating "CAN SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME IF HE'S CHEATING BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO."

A heartbreaking Story. We need the wizard to handle this.

Haven't been getting as many of these of late. Wiz, is the site falling on the ranking of "Dating Advice" on the search engines?

Are you both white? A healthy white baby will fetch a nice sum. Sell the baby, sock the money away and when you turn 21, disappear to Vegas with the money and put it all on Banker EVERY TIME!

If a 34 year old guy first meets and starts dating a 19 year old gal, I'd have to say his only interest is sex. There is ZERO chance of it developing into anything more substantial.

Now back 6.5 years. When you met, you were 12 or 13, he was 27 or 28. I'd have to say, what the f--- were either of you thinking?

Mind you, I can't really blame you. At that age, life is a confusing ordeal. Hell, at 19, life is still confusing.

And now he's not even interested in sex with you?

My opinion (which means nothing) is that he will always cheat on you. Whether or not he does the deed with you is another story. But assume he never has sexual interest in you any more. Will you still stay with him? If so, then sit down with him, and tell him you accept the current situation, and try to be happy.

Otherwise, leave him.

Of course he is cheating on you. He probably thinks you're a fool to give him the benefit of the doubt on the condom. I think he has been cheating all along, and always will. Your choices are to accept it or leave him. The money problems will only get worse if you split up. While I don't know the specifics, my gut says to stick with this until times get better financially, or you meet somebody better. Speaking of which, I wouldn't have any compunction to cheat on him, and keep your eyes open for better prospects.

The same sort of person with the same sort of hit-and-run "help me" post which can be found on most boards of this sort?

Help of a different nature would be indicated.

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When you met, you were 12 or 13, he was 27 or 28.

Mr. Bear has zeroed in something quite pertinent, if he is into someone that young, there is a good chance that he prefers someone that age or even younger. The scenarios surrounding this go from bad to worse, to horrible including prison. Amongst us, only you know if there was any propriety whatsoever in his befriending you at that age, and whether this seems to be a preference. If you know it is, you really need to get some good advice.

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I'm guessing you need money from him to support your child.

Of course you want this. He should never get off the hook on that. Get a lawyer or talk to someone in your family with a head on their shoulders who can help you.