Why do cheating men get married?

Don't get me wrong not saying it is effort free.
But good luck

Quote: RobSinger

my greatest blessing is knowing I did not experience it alone and there was someone else along side me that was proud to share her trials and tribulations with me.

Gotta agree here. I was married 10 years from 1990-2000, no kids. We're still friends in different states, and single life now is good but lonely. I can do what I want, when I want, with whom I want, but I fear I will die alone with no one to hold my hand in the end. No amount of one-night-stands or cash in the bank will lessen that fear. I think having someone to hold my hand in the end is worth everything I have, and I can't find her. So I seek some kinda community on several of these forums like this one, but of course, it barely fills my cup. I feel for ya, hotblonde. 7 billion peeps on the planet, but we get more isolated every year due to technology.

Quote: HotBlonde

It makes me wonder, why, at the age of 33, has none of this happened? Does it honestly just come down to bad luck? Can I live the rest of my life single and be happy?

I think for a honest opinion you need to post a bikini pic.

Quote: Face

When you were younger, you wanted to be big so you could go do stuff on your own. When you got big, you wished you were young again so you didn't have all the responsibility.

This one I never understood or fell into. Not sure what you mean by "young" but I did have a grandmother who used to regularly say, "when you are working you will wish you were a kid in school again." For me that has yet to happen. When I was in school I would see someone driving a truck and think how great it would be to be doing that, or anything else than sitting there in class. College was different, but to wish I was back there? Lets see, do I have $10 for a pizza and a beer or should I spend that on gas?

At most I wish I could move back to age 30 or so and have the internet resources we have now, then tell myself some advice to make a better career switch.

As to the "dying alone" thing, every one of us must face death by ourselves. If I do not meet someone so be it. I doubt HotBlonde is going to move to my area so we can be each other's "backup plans".......................

""As to the "dying alone" thing, every one of us must face death by ourselves.""

I think it's not so much the physical part of "dying alone" because even a spouse or a partner has to face that after one of them passes on. It's really about the serenity of having had and having made the most of the opportunity to share experiences, good & bad, throughout your journey.

Now someone like Larry King might get a bit confused as his mind scrambles to recall who's on first.

Quote: JimMorrison

I think for a honest opinion you need to post a bikini pic.

Um, not gonna happen at this point. :-O

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I doubt HotBlonde is going to move to my area so we can be each other's "backup plans".......................

Cute idea. ;)


So, maybe this is not the right place to ask this question, but I've been kind of struggling with something. Basically there's a part of me that thinks that I can just wait to meet someone who can provide a wonderful life for me, but then I find myself telling me no, that that sounds co-dependent, and that if I want to live a certain life it's totally up to me to provide that kind of lifestyle for myself, and to not depend on someone else to do it for me. But just as I'm starting to believe that, I start thinking how I am a woman and that that's natural for women to feel that way, to look for someone to provide for our family, and that's just the natural order of things. HELP! I want to be responsible for my self and my life but I don't know if I'm trying to do that at the cost of not doing what's natural for human females, which is to look for a man and let him be the main provider.

So confused........... ????

I'm with Terence on this one...

Quote: HotBlonde

So, maybe this is not the right place to ask this question...

Just be yourself. You are the master of your own destiny. There is no shame either way.

Oh heck, just go out and lead the life that you want to lead, do the things you enjoy doing. Hot Blondes get hit on. You'll meet men. If you meet some special ones, see what happens, but don't go looking for a main provider. Go windsurfing, go sailing, go rock climbing, go to a lecture on geology, learn to fly. If you meet a Mister Right, you just may find out he is blacksmith or a welder or someone who makes surfboards... or a man who makes far more money than you and can be a main provider. The trick is to live the life you want to live and see who you meet along the way. Sure, you can be sensible about it. Choose a flight school that is singles oriented. At the geology lecture, choose a seat that is not next to a man with a wedding ring, etc. but go have fun.

Quote: HotBlonde

Basically there's a part of me that thinks that I can just wait to meet someone who can provide a wonderful life for me, but then I find myself telling me no, that that sounds co-dependent, and that if I want to live a certain life it's totally up to me to provide that kind of lifestyle for myself, and to not depend on someone else to do it for me.

I was going to suggest earlier when you asked if you were doing something wrong - how's your volume, or that is, if you're not doing things where you're meeting new people, rather than worrying about what you're doing wrong - up your volume first, if that's lacking.

I don't mean clubs or bars though.