Why do cheating men get married?

Loyalty is not really about social or economic statuses. It's a matter of character and commitment. You made a promise. Keep it.

In my first marriage, on our wedding day, rather than my now ex-wife repeating "to death do us part", she said "as long as I possibly can". Red flag. The marriage lasted 5 months.

I've been married now for almost 9 years, which is nothing in the grand scheme of things (my parents will have their 50th anniversary next year). We've had our ups and down. I didn't foresee most of the problems that we've run into over over the years, didn't really see the flaws in my wife's character nor did my wife see mine. I didn't understand what her reactions to intense stress and heartbreak would be. I didn't understand what hell I'm capable of putting her through from time to time. Both my wife and I are different than when we met.

However, we're intensely committed to our marriage. We've been faithful, not because God tells us to, or that my job keeps her bound to me, or that people would look down on us (or celebrate) should we get divorced. It's because we made a promise to each other that we're not going to break, come hell or high water.

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In my first marriage, on our wedding day, rather than my now ex-wife repeating "to death do us part", she said "as long as I possibly can". Red flag. The marriage lasted 5 months.

Red flag indeed. At least she had a sense of humor.

>Loyalty is not really about social or economic statuses.
I meant more social or economic coercion but not status necessarily. More an awareness of financial results of an affair or of a divorce.
> It's a matter of character and commitment. You made a promise. Keep it.
For some it is. I've mentioned before about the man who stood there and said "I do" about 12 hours after having arranged his first post-honeymoon appointment with his "something on the side". I've also known of women getting married even though they knew it was Mr. Wrong and would not last.

> Both my wife and I are different than when we met. However, we're intensely committed to our marriage.
Congratulations.

Some men always remember that they are married. Other men always remember that it is their wives who are married. Its a matter of viewpoint. One man told a woman he was getting divorced and she replied "feel free to send me a copy of the final dissolution decree, but until then: get lost!".

I don't quite know the details but there was the Honeymoon Cruise couple wherein the bride apparently got so drunk that she kicked her brand new husband in the wrong place and went off with one of the shipboard casino's cashiers, spent the night in his cabin and then returning to her stateroom discovered her husband robbed of his casino winnings and dead. I'm sure she never intended to commit adultery on the fourth day of her marriage but sometimes things just happen.

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In my first marriage, on our wedding day, rather than my now ex-wife repeating "to death do us part", she said "as long as I possibly can". Red flag. The marriage lasted 5 months.

At my wedding, when the JOP said "You may now kiss the bride", I leaned down and she turned away at the last second so I got her cheek instead. Red flag.

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